How Can I Go To A Host Club?

Tomoya-san, me, and my secret weapon, Yuki!

It’s not impossible for a foreigner to go to a host club, but the best way to do it is to ask a Japanese female friend to go with you. If you go with a Japanese woman, she can make the reservation and ask the club if it’s all right to bring a foreign guest.

She will basically be taking responsibility for making sure you understand the rules and behave like a Japanese customer. If any issue arises, the club employees can whisper in her ear and she can explain to you, without any unpleasantries. Even if you speak Japanese, it’s easier for the host to filter any difficulties through a fellow Japanese person than address you directly, because a friend can say things that a stranger can’t.

And actually, it’s more fun to go with a Japanese friend – not just because everybody will be more relaxed and you’ll have a better time, but I’ve found that when I go places with a Japanese person, we have much more interesting experiences than if we were both Japanese or both foreign. The hosts were as curious about me (a real live foreign women!) as I was about them. And because I had a Japanese friend with me, they didn’t have to worry about how good my Japanese was, so the hosts weren’t afraid to ask about my life after I asked them about theirs.

What about men? Can a man go to a host club? Some clubs might allow it, if you go with a Japanese woman and check with the club beforehand. As a rule, though, men are not welcome, even Japanese men.

Fallen Angel readers often ask me what it’s really like to go to a host club. If you’re curious too, here are answers to the TOP TEN QUESTIONS ABOUT HOST CLUBS:

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Jonelle Patrick writes novels set in Japan, produces the monthly e-magazine Japanagram, and blogs at Only In Japan and The Tokyo Guide I Wish I’d Had

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9 thoughts on “How Can I Go To A Host Club?

  1. I love your website. It’s awesome! I wish I could go to a host club when I visit Japan. The only problem is that I don’t have a “secret weapon” Japanese person…. X(

    1. Wah, I wish I was Japanese , so I could take you! Thank you so much for your kind words – one of the best things about writing about odd Japan stuff is that I get to meet people like you, who enjoy it all as much as I do! I’m so happy you commented, and that our paths crossed in the great wide interwebs! (^O^☆♪

      1. I’m in Osaka right now for one more night. I wish I knew a Japanese woman so I could go to a host club -.-

  2. I’d love to see the face of my conservative Tokyo friend if I asked her to accompany me to a host club ^^ I think she would just die. I took her to the Vampire Café and she was afraid of the butler. hihi.

      1. The butler at the Vampire café says frightening things to the customers I think but I couldn’t understand what he said. My teacher never gave us a lesson on japanese vampires ^^

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